Friday, September 4, 2009

Another week has flown by!

I want to say thanks to all the comments and emails that I received after my last post. The more time that has passed, the more I feel that I'm definitely doing what I should. Especially after weeks such as this one!

I've made MORE decisions to help the chaos we call life at the Wheeler house. Yesterday I pulled Carson, Lawson and Em from Mom's Day Out. I really hated doing it . . . . BUT I've really had to assess the situation different this year and really drop what is NOT necessary. And MDO was the big one. It is a huge expense {number 1} and it is on the other side of town {number 2!} The drop off and pick up consumes 2 hours of my day. And it is 2 days a week. So, I would much rather devote 4 hours to something other than driving. Although I really think a program like this is so very important {especially for SAHM.} It just isn't as important as some other things we are doing.

I'm sure some people will not agree - I can think of several that feel I'm wasting my time with all the therapies and that maybe this is just who my kids are. {"Hmm" is about all I have to say to that.}

This fellow went for 3 days this week without saying a word. Which makes me speechless. First off, I don't understand how you can go that long without saying anything?! That actually blows my mind and quite honestly, I think I was born talking. So, I don't see how in the world you can go that long without anything?! I would like to think it was because he didn't have anything to say. BUT I know that was not the case. He did alot of yelling and grabbing my hand to drag me to what he wanted. BUT even if I totally refused to give him what he wanted or constantly repeated "I want . . ." or even say the item for him to repeat back to me, he refused!?!?!?

That is the part I hate - regression. I think we have made such major strides and gains {which I know we have} and then all of sudden we are back to 6 months ago? And although I feel like I'm doing all that I can, there is still a part of me that screams, "Kim, you can do more!"

But as of yesterday, he is talking again. Kind of. Still not really talk as we know it. But he is back to reciting books and looking me in the eyes and happy. Happy - that is my main goal.

Such as this dog - Tiddles. She never gets much time on the blog. So, I thought I would show you my happy and barky dog. And believe it or not - we are actually contemplating getting her a dog. You know - the sick cycle where you get your dog a dog?! Because you think she is lonely and needs a friend?! I mean, that is why we got her! Frenchie needed a friend. Now French is gone and Tiddles could use some companionship! I think I have lost my mind - somebody tell me that is the stupidest thing you have heard and how I don't need another dog?!

I've had a ton of you ask about my little project in Em's room. I'm not really devoting alot of time to it just yet. Actually, I plan to make Lonnie pick up from here and I'll come in and finish it! So far, I've removed all the ghetto contact paper in the drawers.

And I've removed all the white spray paint from the hardware. I've also bumped the thing with a sanding block trying to remove all the trash that was stuck to it! All the things I can do while my kids are running around the garage.

I hope I can get Lonnie to give the time this weekend to her - she needs it. There is alot of work to be done. Not just a simple can of spray paint will do!

For those who asked - $200 is what the dresser, mirror, nightstand and headboard {that will not be used} cost. We have seen several pieces that look just like it. INCLUDING the exact same set that was in my grandparents house that sold for pennies at the estate sale. BUT the jokers on craigs list are asking $2,000 for it! haha!

There is such a fine line between "Wow" and "Crazy."


T Lee said...

the therapies are not a waste of time. you know it and see results, so the nay sayers need to just mind their own business. dropping mdo was a good thing. sounds like it was pretty far away and a major drain on your time. ems is still young. she will love a mdo class, i'm sure, but waiting another year is not a bad thing! the boys already have a lot on their plates. so, i think you made the right decision. mom's have to follow their gut! i had good intentioned people who do love my jax telling me to try to let him get REAL hungry (ie...don't feed him) to try to get him to eat table foods and my gut always said HELL NO! i was happy to hear the therapists and psychologist tell me that i was right and everyone else was wrong! never doubt yourself as a mother. you know your kids better than anyone, period. you love your kids more than anyone else, period. enough said!

Adventures on the Farm said...

You are such a strong mom and I have to say no matter what each person thoughts are on the situation there are only two people that know it inside and out and YOU are making the best decision for your family. Relish in the moments as they pass soooo quickly. Cant wait to see the finish product!!!

Amber said...

good for you! I'm proud of you for making the best decisions for your family. I don't know why that is so hard to do sometimes, but it is. I've been following you forever, but don't think I've ever commented. I'm cheering for you!

SusanD said...

Family first is never a bad choice. I'm sad for me that I didn't get an order in for "Fa La La's" for Christmas tho. So as soon as we're into 2010, I'm putting in my request.

Also, be sure to stop by the new Christmas blog: A Baby Changes Everything. Teresa decorates homes for Christmas for a living and she's offering tips FREE!!

Be sure to tell her I sent you and you'll be entered in a drawing for $100 worth of Christmas ornaments.

Blessings, SusanD

Robin said...

Kim, the therapies are NOT a waste of time! Don't listen to other people. They do NOT walk in your shoes, so they have no room to talk. It took me YEARS to finally realize that. My daughter is 17, and I still get "I can't believe you do this", or "I would NEVER do that.". It's hard, but you just have to let it roll off your back.

YOU are the mama, and YOU know your babies better than anybody else.

Your kids are lucky to have you for their mama!!


Robin :o)

Michelle said...

Putting your family first is always the right thing. Never let the negativity of other people or doubt get you down. I am a single mom and it is hard to trust my own instincts sometimes and not listen to everyone else. But no one knows your children like you do. Anyone who follows your blog can see how great you are doing. I am so glad you choose to keep us all updated and included. I love to see pictures. I didn't comment but I love the pic of you and Lonnie from a previous post.

You may be crazy for wanting another dog but on the other hand, its not so crazy to want Tiddles to have a companion. She might miss Frenchie.

I also wanted to tell you that I got my "S" painting in the mail and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it!!

Hang in there. You're doing great!!! Can't wait to see how Em's furniture turns out.

jess said...

Now THAT'S a good deal! Makes me think I should hold out for a better deal...
It's hard to say no to things that are really good for your family and children, but only you can decide what's best and what should come first for you and your kids. I said no to Bible studies this year. Yikers. I found that after stressing and yelling and hauling 7 almost 8 kids to Bible study, life would be much more peaceful if we just stayed at home. Imagine that. So good for you. Say No some more. It feels liberating after awhile.

Megan L Hutchings said...

I think that you are doing a wonderful job in all the roles you have and hats you wear. If the therapies are helping make even the slightest of progress, then they can't be a waste of time. Just have peace of mind that you are doing the best you can.

Just like you tell me, "You are living for your children!"

Lauren said...

I cannot wait to see the results of your little girl's furniture! What a steal of a deal!

Leigh Ann said...

Girl, I am ALL ABOUT making things simpler and making my family run smoother. I am in the process of trimming myself. I think you are doing a wonderful thing for your boys. That is THE BEST use of your time. I know I don't even have to tell you that. One thing I have found with Evan is when we have a lull in speech, he is usually either gaining is his OT skills or about to have a burst of language. I hope that makes you feel better. Several therapists have told me children will often lull in one area when they are growing in another. I think sometimes for Evan he just can't find the words on certain days. It just breaks my heart. I give him extra TLC and usually the next day is better (just like you saw with L). Evan is still a hand leader sometimes, too. When he can't find the words, I'm thankful he can at least show me. Okay, I'm rambling. LOL! You are an awesome mom and I love reading about what you are doing with and for your children! Em's furniture is going to be fab when you get done with it. Man, I love a bargain!

linda said...

LOVE your dog!!! I have one just like it his name is Chandler. I love reading about you and your kids they are so CUTE!! You are a very talented person, WISH I could paint like you!! I wouldn't even know where to start. Could you give me some pointers as how to get started, I only want to do it for my granddaugher. Keep up the good Mommy role.

Katie said...

Only you know what's best for you and your family. Sounds like you're on the right path. Love the photos!

shabby girl said...

That is just the most adorable photograph of your son!!! So sweet!

As far as a dog for your dog? When my boys were little, they went to a friends birthday party, and came home with "free" goldfish. $35 later, the fish were swimming in their own little bowl with plants and a view of the kitchen. Two of the fish died in the first year, leaving one very lonely fish. Bought him a friend. Couple of years later the friend died. To make a very looong story shorter, TEN YEARS LATER the original fish died, and we started another few years with yet another "friend" we had bought for him.
I'm just sayin'...

writing4612 said...

The therapies are one of the absolute best things that you can do for your kids. I have cerebral palsy, and I've been in physical therapy since I was 6 months old. )I also had to do some occupational therapy for a little while.) I can honestly say that I wouldn't be where I am today if it wasn't for God, my mom, and therapy. I'm doing SO much better. Just don't listen to what negative people have to will pay off in the long run. Keep up the good work!

I have a friend that has cerebral palsy. She went through lots of surgeries, but her mom never took her to physical therapy or make her do her home exercise program. She is now worse off than she was to begin with because of it. She has a hard time walking, and her legs still turn in. She asked me how I'm so different. How can I walk good? How do my legs not turn in? How come I don't have to wear AFOs(aka braces) anymore? I told her it's because I worked hard after every surgery doing physical therapy, and my mom was )and still is) my cheerleader. I'm sad that she's not motivated to get better.

writing4612 said...

I forgot to add if one day is worse, the next few will be better. Things always have a way of working out.

missy said...

your post always make me smile!!!!!
you are always so refreshing!!!!!
only you know what the right answer is with your have to do what is best for you and your family!!!!!!
good luck with everything and have a great weekend!!!!

Allison said...

I wholeheartedly agree with Michelle. You have to listen to yourself and do what is right for your family.

Can I take Tiddles for a few days? What a cutie! And no, that is not a crazy thing to do.

Thanks for showing us the drawer paper--what a hoot!

Valerie Yambor said...

Kim, I'm so sorry to hear that your boys will not be in my class this year. I was so looking forward to meeting them and having the opportunity to love on them this year. But I totally understand. I hope you have a wonderful year, and pray for God to bless your family and send you exactly what you need.

Valerie Yambor

Nadia@FunWithMama said...

ive come across your site today and am blown away by your creativity and gorgeous art posts.. i love your art name paintings and would love to recreate something like that for my own son. I was wondering if you had any tips on how you do it? or ever plan on doing a tutorial of you doing one? I'd love tips on how to make my lines straight as well as how you make such even circles!! :) :)
it looks like so much fun!!! thanks a bunch for your inspiration

Claire said...

Whatever works best for you and your family seems just about perfect to me! Good luck and God bless!